How to Prepare for Sex for the First Time

For most humans, sex for the first is undoubtedly a great moment of their lives. If it is done right, it can lead to a whole new world. 

Sex not only brings two people close to each other, but it also leads to a deep understanding of their bodies. Sex for the first time should never be considered light and casual.

Sex for the first time is different for everyone. For some, it is the most pleasurable moment, while some call it one of the worst. To help make such an experience a good one and pain-free for both, discussed below are a few facts that everybody should consider.

Sex Must Be Discussed

Whether it is with an older member of the family or a medical expert, or whoever, sex must be discussed as long as the other person is mature and is experienced enough to discuss this matter.

There is a possibility that you may know a lot about it already. However, there is no harm in discussing it, especially with someone who might know better. After all, discussing it in loud will make you better equipped to make a decision when the moment arrives. Also, it would help you to understand at a deep level.

In the beginning, there is a possibility that things might seem a bit scary, but when you hear things that you have not heard before and when you get answers to questions that may have come to your mind before, it indeed helps. And, it helps a lot.

Such discussions ensure that you are ready to go for it since you now have the solutions and have moved past the hurdles.

Preparations

It is wrong if you have been told that you do not need to prepare yourself for anything and everything will happen naturally. On the contrary, a lot can be done if there is a bit of preparation. The biggest advantage is, that you will never get into an off-guard situation.

Hence, you must be well aware of the various sexual aspects like protection methods, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), erotic zones of the body, and the relevance of the sexual organs. Thereafter, you must ensure that you have all the essentials, like condoms, lubes, sex toys, etc. You can easily find it at a drug store or a sex shop. You may consult at these points if you are not sure of anything.

You may opt to buy these online or ask a friend to accompany you if you are nervous.

Consent

The most important thing in sex, irrespective of whether it is consent for the first time, last time, or anytime, is consent. It has to be loud enough and must be enthusiastic. Do not allow anyone to tell you or convince you anything. You may come across people who downplay or take it as a joke, but be careful. Step back if you are uncomfortable or feel unsafe. A no is a no. Ensure that your partner understands this well and respects it.

Trust

You may believe you will be with your partner for the rest of your life. Or, you may believe that having sex with someone will be a one-time thing. However, when it comes to your mental and physical health, you may feel that you can trust your partner would make the experience better and safer.

Remember, you do not owe anything to anyone. You must know exactly when was the last time your partner was tested for STD, whether the report was positive or not, and whether you have been treated for the same or not. The same applies to you as well.

Whether you want to reveal to your partner that it is your first time is entirely your call. However, it can be quite helpful since the other person will be extra careful and there will be no surprises. It is best to discuss each other’s expectations. It will ensure that both of you are on the same page.

Foreplay And Fun

There is a possibility that you might be nervous, and you want to get over it. But, again, it is a mistake. Instead, take your time and go on some excellent foreplay. It may take a girl a lot of time to get aroused, followed by lubrication of the vagina.

The first time will be a great experience if there is enough lubrication. Without it, there might be a lot of discomfort and pain. In a few cases, it has been found that there were tears and cuts as well.

No Acrobatics

You might be thinking of some sexy positions and tricks to impress your partner, but it is better to go for those one step at a time. You must always take your time when it comes to sex. Remember, the first time is never the best.

Hygiene

Nails must be trimmed. Hands should be washed properly. Use a new condom every time, even if there is no ejaculation. Women must urinate both before and after sex. Cuddling can happen later. Body fluids must be cleaned with a wet towel.

These are a few tips that can be pretty helpful, especially if it is your first time. However, the most important tip is always to have fun.